I want to talk about something that may not be too popular but it is something that we all need to hear. Those who know me know that I will always tell you the truth. I will tell it in love but I will give it to you straight. I have always said that a real friend speaks the truth to you even if it’s hard to hear or at the risk of you walking away. So I am going to talk to you as if I was talking to a friend. I wish someone had told me these things a long time ago. Face yourself and deal with your issues. Stop burying those things that you have been stuffing since you were a child. Take off your mask and stop pretending. Be honest with yourself and with God because He already knows anyways. He has been waiting for you to admit that you have issues so you can give them all over to Him and let Him heal you and set you free. Ok, I can just hear some people saying , “Oh I am free. The blood of Jesus has made me free.” Yes that’s true and there are some times when the Lord will do a quick work and set someone free in an instant but that’s not always the case. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Most times it takes a process and a renewal of your mind. I thank God that He didn’t do a quick work in me because I would not have learned all that I have. This process has been hard but so worth every moment. Sometimes it does feel like I have spent most of my adult life fighting my own issues as well as issues from generations before me. You see, when I became a mother almost 21 years ago it changed me and I was determined to overcome the things that had crippled me as a child so that my children would be free. I asked God to show me myself and to put me on His potter’s wheel and make me over. Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. Needless to say, that was the start of a long process and I am still in it. It was hard at first to see the mess that I was. It was so overwhelming. There were moments when I didn’t know how to handle it so I would stuff it and busy myself so I wouldn’t have to deal with it. But eventually my issues would resurface. I realized that they were not only affecting me, but they were affecting my marriage, my husband and my kids. I had to learn little by little to surrender as the Holy Spirit showed me another area that I needed to deal with. Fear held me back for many years and made it almost impossible to face myself but I was more determined to be free so I was willing to take the steps of faith that God put before me.
I have always been the type of person who likes to figure things out and fix whatever the problem is. I am a problem solver. I can see an issue and then see the resolution. So when things in my own life hadn’t been “fixed”, it really frustrated me. I know that the ultimate fixer is Jesus. That took me time to learn too. I got to a place in my life where I had to surrender this and everything else to my Father so He could do the fixing.
This has been a faith walk and I have had to learn to trust Him more than anything or anyone, even myself. How many of us are so self reliant that we don’t know how to truly let go and trust our Father?
So, getting back to talking about issues, I believe we are in a time where God wants to set His people free for real. There are multitudes of believers sitting in churches all over the world who have never learned how to face and deal with their issues. The generations before only taught them to be strong, keep going, praise it away or just shove it under the carpet and go on with life. What they don’t realize is that this doesn’t work and it doesn’t make you strong. We must deal with our stuff if we want to be everything that God has destined us to be.
I myself have come to a place in my own life where I will do whatever it takes to be whole, healed and set free. There are certain roots that have needed to be dug up and pulled out. I thought I had dealt with these things but they kept coming back around. I have come to learn that there are some things that you need to get help to deal with and that’s ok. For me, it has been roots of rejection and fear that I have needed to face and deal with. I have needed healing. I learned to recognize that these issues were there, but I had not allowed myself to really deal with them and let the Lord heal me. I am in that process right now and it is not easy. I feel like I have been on God’s operating table and He is going deep to get out these roots so I can finally heal. Facing the pain hurts but we need to allow ourselves to go there, feel the hurt and bring it before our Father so He can heal us. Stop trying to numb your pain or run from it. It WILL resurface and you will find yourself in this horrible cycle if you don’t face it. Yes, it is easier to avoid these things. It takes courage to face yourself and take honest inventory.
So I encourage you all no matter how old you are to deal with your issues. Maybe there are things passed down from your parents or grandparents or maybe you have roots of fear or rejection. Maybe you were sexually abused as a child and you never faced the pain. Maybe your father or mother was not in your life or maybe they were there but they were emotionally absent. Were you bullied as a child? Did you come from an abusive home? We could do this all day, but you get the picture. We need to be real and honest with ourselves if we are to ever be truly free. I don’t know about you but I want to be free. I pray that this helps someone today. You can do this and you can be free. Let God show you the areas that need to be dealt with and let Him walk you through your healing and freedom. If you are already on this journey, I am so happy for you and I encourage you to keep going and walk out your freedom. God has given you everything you need to make it and live a victorious life.